For the past couple of weeks, I have not been able to do anything without making my mom cry or get really mad. It does not have to be anything major, even the most minor things will make her tick. An example is yesterday we were bringing a dresser into the room. I asked her what end she wanted to go in first. She said, “your end”, and then when i tried to suggest something else, she got mad and started crying. Today I was changing the tire on her car at her work, and she came out and completely yelled at me for not coming home for dinner last night, and then going to a movie with my girlfriend. After she was finished yelling, she got really teary and then yelled at me to do whatever i want and leave her out of it.
Many times when i come home or come into the room that she is in, she will be crying. I do not get why. Whenever she starts crying, she always says to me that maybe she needs to just go look for an apartment for herself. This seems really unprovoked since no one at the house has done anything to spike her off, and make her want to move out, yet somehow it is all my fault and she claims that I hate her and am very selfish. I have been taking 2 summer classes at community college and last week was finals week, so I was doing a lot of studying and not much housework. Now she claims how lazy I am. I just don’t know how to react other than yell and then that just makes her cry all over again.
Many times, she has suggested that maybe I need to move out and find myself a place. So I go and find a place and she gets mad that I did. Then she says that i dont have to go anywhere and I can just live at home, like nothing ever happened. I am not even sure about how to find a place as I am going to community college and dont make much money.
so I have decided that she must be depressed about something, and everything I do is going to be the wrong action and I cannot do anything right for her, but I am wondering what you think I should doMy mom has been really weird lately?With all that you've said, it sounds like your mom may be going through some stuff that she's not filling you in on. Depending on her age, she may have hormones that are all out of whack and she may be starting to go through menopause. She could be upset that you're starting to develop a life of your own and although it doesn't make sense to you, she's pushing you away. It does sound like she is going through a little bit of depression so approach the subject lightly if/when you talk with her about it. As a mother I suggest not taking this too much to heart. Moms are only human, just like you and we sometimes feel things that are unexplainable to our children. Sometimes we too do things we regret and say things we shouldn't. Talk to your mom, the way you've asked the question on here and maybe she'll understand that you're worried about her and have noticed a change in her personality lately. Maybe the simple act of you noticing and asking will make things less strained for the both of you. It's nice to see that you're concerned enough to seek a little help, maybe she should know about your concern as well. Good luck!My mom has been really weird lately?menopause?My mom has been really weird lately?How old is she?
Could be menopause...My mom has been really weird lately?I think you should buy a house or apartment for yourself,and at least go visit her once in awhile.Spend time with her,Is she married? Maybe thats the problem.My mom has been really weird lately?I'm thinking menopause or she's just being very emotional because you're growing up? It sounds like you're maybe 19 or so %26amp; it's probably just hitting her that you're turning into a woman %26amp; not her baby girl anymore. She just can't handle it. It really sounds like that's what it is.My mom has been really weird lately?I think your mom is definitely depressed and needs treatment. I used to snap at the smallest things myself. I'd walk into the house and boom! like a lightswitch I was going off on everyone for any reason. It took abilify added to effexor to help me with this.
Please explain to your mom that you're really concerned about her and want her to get some help. Tell her you'll go to the doctor with her for support. Explain she doesn't have to be in pain like this (trust me..she's in pain!) and you want her to feel better and enjoy life.
Good luck to you and your mom! You're a good kid for caring so much.
