Ok so this kinda goes along with my other questions but here it goes. Me and my hubby have been together 9yrs since H.S. and have 2 kids together. This will be long but any in put would be appreciated. After about 2 yrs we heard rumors his ex had a son that she claimed to be his, we confronted her but she denied it but then about a year or so later changed her story. My husband never had his dad around as a child and wasn't sure how to be a good dad and ended up cheating on me with her. Anyway we worked through that, the only reason I took him back was because of the situation and I know how insecure he was/is about being a good dad since he never had anyone to look up to (he is great dad by the way). Anyway we were really good up until about a year and a half ago and we were having some major financial problems and were fighting alot, we became really disconnected until it came to a major cross road where we either had to work hard to get it back or just walk away. During that time I had noticed some calls from a girl from his work like on his way home from work they only lasted like 30 seconds or less but they were pretty frequent like almost every night. I confronted him about it and he said it was just about work stuff but agreed to not talk to her anymore. So we began to get better and we have a pretty good relationship now but because of all this I have a hard time. Here lately he has not been very interested in sex (like once a week usually) and while I really don't need the actual act it self, I feel like maybe he isn't attracted to me, I just want to feel like he wants me that way. And usually when I ask him he says he's stressed or tired which maybe true. And the other day we got into an argument and I got really upset and he knew it and I went to bed before he got home (he works 2nd) and the next day he posted this on my facebook page %26quot; we have been fighting all night about stupid stuff . but as i lay here and watch you sleep all i can think about is this question. i remember the first time i saw you, in font of Reed middle school talking to your friends before school started. I remember thinking that some trouble making kid like me couldn't get a girl like that. I remember the ... See Morefirst time we actually meet later in high school at a football game. i couldnt believe you were the same girl. i remember the first time we kissed in the in the rotc room next to the old gym, i dont think i could have been more nerves. I remember the the day i realized i was in love with you, i hated talking on the phone with anyone but for you i walked to the pay phone several times a day just to hear your voice.I remember walking 3 miles in a snow storm in 12 inchs of snow just to be with you. ( being able to stay the night was just a bonus) I remember when our kids were born . I remember how great full i was of everything you went through to bring them onto this earth . now as i lay here and watch you sleep i am reminded of how much i do love you and how sorry i am for not showing it more. I still want to give you the world , but it wouldnt be worth much without you in it%26quot; Which I cried it meant so much to me to hear this. But he has been car pooling with his friend to work and today I was on my way home from a school thing and I saw that his friend was at home. My phone had died but when I got home he had said his friend had to leave because his ex wife was trying to steal things and this was an hour before I drove by. I don't know what to think I am so confused, I dont know if I am just being paranoid or I have a valid concern????Problems with hubby whats your take?Is it normal for him to leave those types of messages for you on facebook (or any other place)?
Given his past behavior that you described that would lead me to believe that he meant what he has said in the email message but also that there was a reason other than that for which he sent it, maybe something he is feeling guilty about. Or it could be that he considered maybe cheating and had second thoughts about what you once had and what he'd like to have again.
All marriages and any relationship for that matter will go through tough time, but you seems to have gone through many in 9 years.
My parents married young and went through a lot of the same thing you have, so going through tough times and making mistakes doesn't mean it can't last or its not worth saving (or trying to save), my parents were 16 %26amp; 19 when they married, and were married 3 weeks shy of 40 years when my dad died.
Being uninterested in sex doesn't automatically equate someone as cheating, in many cases someone who is cheating has an increased sex drive, and usually the sex is better than before, they become interested in trying %26quot;new%26quot; things, etc.Problems with hubby whats your take?That msg on you face book could be he is feeling guilty about something, do some more investigating before you jump to conclusions. See if he loses interest in sex, is often out and makes up reasons for not being around then there might be something going on. Otherwise he sounds like a great guy.Problems with hubby whats your take?wow that was long but here it goes
there are so many red flags in your relationship you should consider having a nascar track in the backyard. was your husband ever a man that wanted sex. it seem like he is determined to do what he wants and keep you at the same time. he has already made several mistakes and instead of improving, he continues to put honey around the bear cave. im not sure what his motives are but stay alert he obviously isnt being honest with you
