Dear Jamie: I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a good looking, educated and loving Black man. I just don't understand a lot of Black females attitudes about our relationship.
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes.... I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE
Dear Jamie: I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Black men date white women.
Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control %26amp; walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Black men date white women.. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie and Robin Thicke, to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be informed. Stop thinking that because you are 20 and white, you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Black woman
that taught you how to raise your children. It was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Black woman
that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them; being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the Black women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.. that I find most appealing about Black women.. Their strong spirWhats your view on interracial relationships and whats your view on this letter?I think you both make some points and, but he makes the better point.I go to a mostly white highschool and every black dude I know have gone with these white women.The might be pale,red,or tanned skin, but they are all fast and easy to hit and quit and not make up a fuss.But im blackzilain(black and brazilian) mixed with french,but i look like a brown black man and whit girls go wit me just so they can take me home and say im something other then black and they pops wont get mad.Anyway dont act like he is after you just becuase you are white and he might just go with you for who you are or what you do in the bed dont be so conceated.besisdes are yall both making a bi deal about this black white thing or is it just you?Whats your view on interracial relationships and whats your view on this letter?um wow k first of all ima deal with the ****** lol Egyptians are not black ok lol blacks were their slaves u need to look at ur history way more carefully and no empire can even come close to any white empire the whites pretty much ruled almost the whole world like 5 times and were only stopped by more power hungry whites so stop being a dumb ****** and gtfo for the pathetic white girl dating a ****** i got no respect for u cuz of filthy little whores like you killing you'r Own race o well the white race is pretty much killing itself anyways so to some it up dont be a ****** stop being a stupid white **** and **** some one in ur own race and leave the savage voodo doctors alone in africaWhats your view on interracial relationships and whats your view on this letter?i couldnt have said it better...so true!Whats your view on interracial relationships and whats your view on this letter?i enjoyed reading this and Andre's answer! :)
there is so much to say about this subject..
