ok,I had just had the in laws down for ten days that reacked havoc on my marriage.My wife took them to the airport while leaving me in my bedroom and they did not want to tell me goodbye.For the next 6 days my wife was visibly upset with me.I had wound up raising our son for the first 8 mths of his life while I also earned 2/3 of our income from working from home,but my wife worked a 3 hr a day part time job.The baby never latched which devastated her and she was so tired and depressed I wound up feeding and changing him the most,then she went back to work and I and my son bonded very tight.The highlight of my sons day was when mommy would come home from work.However,at around three mths of age he demanded to be placed on my shoulders for 15 minute shoulder rides aprx 3 to 4 times a day.The in laws totally tried to disrupt this wanting to place him i a stroller which just made him angry screaming and crying for his %26quot;walks%26quot;,which I tried for all ten days to let them do the stroller thing,but he demanded his %26quot;walks%26quot; with me anyway.The last night I raised my voice and said %26quot;god d@mmit just do what works!%26quot; after they had made him cry for 45 minutes and I took my son and took him for a ten minute walk,brought him into his mommy and handed him to her and said,%26quot;here a happy content baby%26quot;.He was smiling and happy having had his normal daily routine.The mil huffed out of the room so I simply left for 4 hrs and came home at midnight their last night at our home,hoping they would have some class and respect our home.Instead my wife attacked me.I even went next door to my neighbors trying to prevent an argument but my wife came outside screaming at me and the neighbors,which is not a normal thing for my wife to do.Anyway 6 days later she was marching around the house showing me her anger towards me,and I tried to talk to her about it,and she started crying so I took the baby for a shoulder walk because my wife obvioulsy di not need me sitting with her right then.As I walked back into the subdivision an 18 yr old kid that lived kitty corner from me pulls up in his mustand ,pushes in his clutch and begins repeatatively romping his motor,waking and frightening my 8 mh old sleeping son.This kid knows I walk this baby and that the child was in my arms.The kid pulls into his yard and he and anther kid get out flexing their chests as if taunting me.I go and hand my son to my wife and pick up a large garden brick and hurl it into the kids parked car window with his father standing about 15 ft from me.They operate a roofing company and so 5 guys come out after me as I am walking back into the street so that at least I am not tresspassing when and if police show up.While i spend the night in jail my wife takes off with my son 1000 miles away and files an ex parte and tries to file for divorce.I file divorce down here first.This was 6 mths ago.I asked her tonight if she was planning on leaving me before I put the brick into the neighbors window and she said no.I told her I was more upset that night because I thought she was going to leave me before I took the walk with my son.Would you leave your husband over this type of situation?The neighbors used to drag race down our street and do not really do that anymore.I told my wife about that tonight about how it is sad to me how many ladies started walking their children on our road after I put the brick into the window as it gained respect for our street but I made the street safe for everyone elses babies but not for my son.
Would you have left under these given situations?I even have an affidavit from the neighbor lesbians that I went to talk to (we did not know they were lesbians at the time because the ladies husband had just moved out after living next to us for 4 yrs) that my wife had came over upset and that I said a few things to her but nothing uncalled for or out of the range of a normal argument.I just told my wife that her parents were causing our baby to cry and I left to avoid an argument.In the 12 yrs we were together I haqd never left for more than an hr without telling her where I was going,so I did cause her worry that night as I was hurt that she never stands up to her family for me when they attack me for the past 12 yrs.I told my wife I would never hurt her or my son,but I think she is just trying to save face to her mother.I don't want a divorce I was protecting my baby.Had I called the police I thnk the neighbors would have been vandalizing my home and become hostile,vs me going on the offense calmed them downWalking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?My mother did not like my husband and I had to make a stand I did not talk to her for two years. Now she understand that's it my life not hers. I know what your wife is going thought but one day she will have to make a stand. Their will be no pace in your house in till she do. Talk to her and make her understand that you love her and you want to be home with your family. 12 years is a long time to call it off don't give up and if I was you I would try to move sometimes neighborhoods down hill. Good LuckWalking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?Wow! thats a lot of typing! I would be pissed at my husband for doing that. Just because well, like the other person said, something so retarded. But i can understand how it escalated. I may have been mad at my husband but i would've been mad at the kids more. Thats the thing about marriage, or our marriage. You can disagree with your spouse all you want behind closed door, but when it comes to the rest of the world, you always have each others back no matter who's right or wrong! Your wife needs to realize that. This is so silly to get a divorce over and it has meddeling in laws written all over it!
edit** I just went back and read what the person above me wrote, and they also make an extremely valid point. You might have to sit and think. We're you being inconsiderate to their feelings? My family is lucky to have bought the house next door to my parents. I see everyday how grandparents love grandchildren, and i tell you, its something like no other! Its different from them loving there own children. I cant explain it but, it is something to consider. Maybe they just wanted their own time to bond with your son. Just make sure you think about all sides and everybody involved. good luckWalking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?i think this is more info then needed. Anyhow NO I would not leave my hubby because he tossed a brick at a neighbors car however i would think that was totally retarded way to deal with that situation i would question his angry reaction to something that could have been handle way way better way. I do think it's possible THAT gave her reason to fear you ...just maybe?. As for the in laws she should have stood up for you YES.Walking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?no one needs the drama, not you, not your wife and least of all your son........Walking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?your wife needs to grow up and you did not marry her parents, you may need to file for a divorce because she has taken the child out of state, check this site for answers to your issues. you do need a lawyer.http://www.lawguru.com/Walking 8 mth old sleeping baby in my arms and a car with illegal pipes rolls up on me .....?So your in laws came and stayed for 10 days so obviously they must live a fair distance away.So they dont see their grandson very often. What I see is you need to just take a back seat and let them have as much time with their grandson as possible.Looks like you couldn't let them have that time. There are times in a childs life that routines dont need to be as strict, and this was one of them. Your stubbornness has meant that you have lost a lot. Your wife is now looking after your child by herself so obviously he would not be crying for his walks with you every day. Kids adapt to things and if you just let your in laws have their own bonding time with your son without butting in things might have been different . Anyway maybey a lot of apologizing to your in laws might go a long way to getting your family back together . Sometimes you just have to swallow your ego.
