What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister was missing?
I fell asleep earlier and my mother left to go to a meeting, locking the door behind her. I have a 10yr old brother and two sisters, ages 7 and 5. My brother came back half an hour later telling me he couldn't find our sister. I spent ten minutes tearing the house apart and then I called my mom.
She started yelling at me, asking what I was doing, how could I lose her, what was my problem, all of that good stuff. Then she laughed and told me she was %26quot;just kidding%26quot;, that apparently my sister had snuck into the car and she hadn't noticed until it was too late. I was in tears by this point, and when she told me that I hung up immediately. I was furious. Still am.
A.) We have been fighting to the point of legal action with my neighbors.
B.) We don't live in the best neighborhood.
C.) We also live across the street from a lake where a three year old child was killed by a gator a few years ago (this is in Florida).
Now I'm in trouble for hanging up on her and not responding to her calls. Tell me honestly here - am I in the wrong? Am I taking this too seriously? My mother is a Girl/Boy scout leader (plus the district leader for all of the troops in our town), she volunteered daily with Headstart when my sisters were younger (including being president), she helps with the American Cancer Society all of the time, etc. And I'm only seventeen.
But seriously....doesn't that seem like common sense? She didn't bother to call and let us know that she had the kid, and she continued on with the %26quot;joke%26quot; even though she knew I was upset. This is my baby sister we're talking about. I changed that girl's diapers, I held her bottle when my mom was too tired to, I got up at 4 am to give her her Nebulizer breathing treatments, I held her hand on the way to the hospital when she had an asthma attack and turned blue from lack of oxygen.
Obviously I'm still really pissed but when my mother got home, she totally ignored me. She acted as though nothing happened. It wasn't until I brought it up that she got %26quot;mad%26quot; and yelled at me for hanging up.
So here's my question: Do you think I should pursue this and let her honestly know that I didn't find any humor in it whatsoever? Or shall I just let it go? We're not the touchy-feely kind of family, and I'm moving out next month. I just worry for the kids in the future. How can I approach her about this when she honestly feels that she was just %26quot;making a joke%26quot;?
Thanks for any help, sorry for the huge rant...What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?The huge rant was important. No %26quot;sorry%26quot; really needed!
Ok, well here's the thing: your mom was probably, really JUST kidding. I doubt she realized how much it had worried you. And when you DID point out to her that you felt horrible, and that it was a sick joke, she probably had that instant human reaction that defies everything.
So, chances are, her not speaking to you right now, is her way of %26quot;admitting%26quot; that she was indeed wrong. She probably feels a little ashamed or embarrassed. If you keep attacking/getting mad at her about it again, she will keep this up and keep her mouth shut. This doesn't mean that you let it go, because it was not nice of her to do that. Just don't bring it up, and see how she acts like in a day or so. If nothing has changed, just step aside with her for a moment, and tell her that you didn't like what she did at all, and that it scared you. Say that you would appreciate it if she would stop making these jokes. And lastly, you know you hung up because you were hurt, angry, and frustrated, and by now, she probably understands that she shouldn't do this kind of thing anymore. I don't think there is any need to say sorry on either side, but as long as you get through to her on that at a calm level of understanding, both of you can let it go.
And yes, you do seem to have more common sense and maturity than her.
Edit: Ah, I see. Tests, finals, exams, and more tests...lol, the perfect combination for a meltdown. I hope all goes well!What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?I think it was horribly mean and immature of Your Mother and frankly a dirty trick.
Apparently You have more Maturity than She does, which is sad.What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?I know how you must feel. I also have a younger sibling who i took care of as far back as possible. Thinking you lost a sibling is nothing to be joked about.What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?Wow, that wasn't funny at all! That's kind of sick. Sit her down and talk to her in a calm manner. Life is short, appreciate your mother because she will be the only mother you will ever have. Tell her you love her but her stunt was uncalled for. Sometimes the children must be the mature ones. Good luck to ya.What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?If your mother thought that was funny, she has a huge problem. You need to try to talk to her without anger or blame. I know this isn't as easy as it sounds. But the minute you show your anger and fly into her she is going to get mad and nothing will be solved.
I wish you luck and you seem to have more sense than your Mom.What would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?wow that was a lot to read!
Man that was a low act by your mum seriously.....
If that happened to me I would be quite annoyed like you areWhat would you say to your mother if she thought it was funny to allow you to think that your baby sister ...?Listen, I have a grandmother who used to LOVE playing sick jokes soI know exactly where your coming from. Examples: throwing boxes down the cellar stairs and screaming, calling a family member up and disguising her voice and saying that her husband was cheating on her and then FORGETTING to call her back explaining that it was just a joke, calling family members up at 60 yrs.old and saying she's pregnant. Sounds like things around your house are really stressing you out to the max. First of all, not talking to her won't do any good, tell her exactly how the 'joke' made you feel, then with the rest of the BS, just breathe deep, relax, and let go. Those other things are out of your control right now, no sense in worrying about them. But, I would definitely let your mom know that even though she may have thought that her joke was funny, it really upset you. Good luck with everything.
